Thoughts on Family

     Hey everybody! Today we're going to be talking about how parents can fulfill the needs of their children. Or, more specifically, what exactly some of the needs of children are, and how to identify them. None of the needs are the physical ones, such as food, shelter, or clothes. They are, however, just as important! Or, in some instances, even more important. These 5 needs that we'll be discussing are: Attention, Power, Protection, Withdrawal, and Challenges. When we talk about giving children attention, I don't just mean talking to them or spending time with them. It is very important to make sure that we are giving our children physical attention as well, such as hugs, eye contact, and just physical contact in general is important, as we are very social creatures. It has been proven that when children don't get enough attention, including physical touch, they can develop a condition called "failure to thrive" in which the child is very slow to develop c...

    Hey everyone! Today we're going to be talking about bringing families closer. Specifically, I'm going to be talking about ways that working together as a family can bring them closer. In my life, I have seen how all the hard work my family did together brought us closer than all of the times that we didn't work or even played. The main points that we will be: Creating a sense of belonging. creating teamwork, and making the family load lighter.      First, lets talk about how work creates a sense of belonging. Whenever you give somebody a job and make them feel important, they grow attached and create the said sense of belonging. I remember when I was 9 years old, my Dad called me into the garage to help him work on the car. Of course, I didn't know anything about cars, but my dad still told me what tools to bring him. We worked on that car for months rebuilding the engine, and it made me feel like such an important, vital part of the family.    ...

     Hey everybody! Today we're going to be talking about one of the most important parts of marriage. That is, communication! This is going to be a pretty fast and informative post where we're just going to go over the "5 Secrets of Effective Communication" as instructed by David D Burns, MD. These 5 steps are: The Disarming Technique, Empathy, Inquiry, "I Feel" Statements, and Stroking.      The first step is, "The Disarming Technique". This is a great way of de-escalating the situation if you and your loved ones are arguing. The way you use this is to find a the "grain of truth" in what your partner is saying, even if what they have said is completely unfair or untrue. For example, if my wife said something like, "You don't care about me at all!" I could use the disarming technique by replying, "you're right my love, I haven't done a good job of listening to you and making time for you." The next step, E...

    Hey everybody! I hope you've all had a great week and are ready for another very sensitive topic, and one that I'm sure some of you will find rather controversial. That is, we will be talking about sex in marriage. Now to get a little more specific, I want to talk a little about the sexual differences between a man and a woman, the effects pre-marital sex can have on a marriage, and we'll talk briefly about the effects of pornography on marriage.     So first, what are the sexual differences between a man and a woman? Well rather than the obvious difference of men having a penis and a woman having a vagina, let's go a bit deeper than that. In Lauer & Lauer, Chapter 4 titled "Sexuality", it is explained that women will typically require more stimulation to reach orgasm than a man, but are also more likely to experience multiple orgasms to get to a "resolution" phase, which is pretty much when their bodies are done. Men, in contrast, typically ...

    Hey everybody, thanks for tuning into my blog this week! We've got an interesting topic to discuss together today which is: how to adjust to a new marriage. If you're new to the blog, then you may not know that I have been married to nearly 3 years. And, as you may expect, there has been a lot of adjustments and struggles we've already had to navigate together. For the sake of time, however, I'll share the 3 most common issues that I have seen. These are: communication, differences in culture, and finances.     First of all, communication! Normally we save the most important point for last, but I've gotta start with it. Frankly, communication is key. If you are an individual who is able to talk to someone who disagrees with you completely without it resulting in raised voices or conflict, we would call that impressive! However, when this situation occurs in a marriage, its expected. When a husband and wife are unable to effectively navigate a disagreeme...

     Have you ever looked at a couple and thought, "they are never going to work out." Or in contrast, have you ever thought, "wow they are going to be together forever!" Well, when we are trying to determine these things, we need to first ask what the main things that we can do to prepare for and best ensure a good marriage? For those of you who aren't married yet, I suggest that you firstly look to the three T's of relationships. These are: Togetherness; Talking; and Time.     First, let's take a look at "Togetherness". When a couple is dating, how often did they engage in a wholesome activity that caused them to learn more about each other? In today's society it has become very popular to "hang out", without a real plan. This isn't even actually "dating" since you aren't going out on a planned date. In fact, this is usually just an attempt to grow more comfortable with each other so that the relationship can b...