Sex in Marriage

    Hey everybody! I hope you've all had a great week and are ready for another very sensitive topic, and one that I'm sure some of you will find rather controversial. That is, we will be talking about sex in marriage. Now to get a little more specific, I want to talk a little about the sexual differences between a man and a woman, the effects pre-marital sex can have on a marriage, and we'll talk briefly about the effects of pornography on marriage.
    So first, what are the sexual differences between a man and a woman? Well rather than the obvious difference of men having a penis and a woman having a vagina, let's go a bit deeper than that. In Lauer & Lauer, Chapter 4 titled "Sexuality", it is explained that women will typically require more stimulation to reach orgasm than a man, but are also more likely to experience multiple orgasms to get to a "resolution" phase, which is pretty much when their bodies are done. Men, in contrast, typically do not require as much stimulation to reach arousal before an orgasm. In addition to this, men will be much more likely to only experience one orgasm before they experience a "resolution". Due to these distinct differences, it is very important for a husband and wife to spend time learning about each other, and to not let these physical differences become an opportunity for contention, but rather use it for what it is: an opportunity for the two of you to grow closer.
    Next, lets touch on the effect of pre-marital sex on a marriage. Despite what Hollywood wants us to believe, pre-marital sex is never beneficial to a marriage. I can promise you that if you're worried about marrying somebody without knowing if the sex is good yet, you are focusing on exactly the wrong thing. In this scenario I am going to not delve into the psychology and science behind this, but rather I want to focus on the effect on your marriage. If you end up not marrying the person you have this sexual encounter with, then I can promise you that when you get married you will regret not waiting for them. And when you are ready to get married, I promise you that waiting for when you are actually married to one another will make the experience so much more special for both of you. Remember, this is meant to be a sacred experience shared between the two of you and no one else. And that brings us to our next topic.
    As we mentioned above, sex is meant to be a sacred, private act between a husband and wife within the confines of marriage. Pornography is not only sex outside of marriage, but it is the opposite of private or sacred. Not only does this ruin how somebody will look at sex and their expectation for both them and their partner, but pornography is closely linked to masturbation. When someone excessively masturbates and watched porn, studies have shown that the mental capacity to experience delayed gratification is immensely reduced, as well as odds for a lack of arousal during real sex. This will not only make it more difficult for you and your spouse to have a good experience with each other, but all aspects of your life that involve delayed gratification (such as working out, getting an education, or staying in your marriage for love and not fleeting pleasures) will become much more difficult for you to commit to.

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